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Elimination Communication with a Newbie Newborn and a Toddler: ‘Mom, Baby Has to Go!’

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Margo is the cheerleader: ‘Baby did a poo!!!’

I started Margo on Elimination Communication (EC) when she was 11 days old.  I was so scared the first time I took her!  Can you believe I was scared to see if my baby would do a poo or wee in a bucket.  I think being a new mom, I was even scared just to hold her!  Scared to let her cry for a second or two, etc.  Also, scared that this cool EC thing I had heard about would never work for me.  Like EC would be rocket science and I would be left changing her diapers until she was 4…  Well, lucky for me, it’s not rocket science, it’s actually what people have been doing with their babies since the beginning of mankind… with an exception of the past 50 some-odd years. Whenever I have show people how my little newborns can do their business over a bucket, they say, ‘oh, what a clever baby!.  A fellow ECing friend of mine and I agreed, no, it’s not my clever baby, (although, yes I must have clever babies) but the conventional system of wearing diapers and toilet training, is rather stupid.

Margo has been out of diapers for so long now, since she was about 12 months, that I don’t even consider that I am ECing with her as well.  But, I guess it is still EC… Other than needing a clean up after a #2, at 2 years and 5 months, she can take herself to the toilet on her own.  I still do remind her plenty of times during the day.  Even though the kid can hold it for hours, I notice she gets a bit more irritated, or starts dancing if she has been holding in a wee for a while.  But, she even holds it for 10 or 11 hours at night!  Way longer than I can hold it!

ECing the second time around, thus far, has been a breeze.  At the time I’m writing this, little Goldie is 11 days old and she’s already a pro!  It’s really just a bit more confidence on my end that is making the whole process run smooth.  First off, I’m not afraid of holding a newborn.  Then, reading Goldie’s signals now, is like reading a book.  If she starts squawking for no apparent reason, or squirming during a feed, coming on and off, or if she is trying to fall asleep and just can’t seem to settle, I take off her diaper (if she’s wearing one), hang her little bottom over our red bucket and away she goes.  Margo even tells me a lot of the times when her sister needs to go.  If the baby is fussy, ‘Mom, baby has to poo!’.  Margo helps me get the bucket out and stands on a chair to watch.  Then, she tells me when the baby is done!  And, Margo is right, a lot of the time!  Maybe because she went through the process not so long ago, herself, she remembers?  Margo loves to help out too.  She gets me a clean diaper if we need it.  She gets the bucket ready.  And, if little babers has spit up, she gets her a clean shirt.  When she does do a wee or poo we have a little cheering squad.  ‘Yay, baby did a poo!  She feels better now’.  It’s always a bit of excitement when we catch a big poo, the way that newborn poo comes noisily flying out always attracts attention, no matter where you are in the house!

Now, I’m not saying we are catching everything.  Since we’re using mostly cloth diapers, (I am using a few disposables, gasp!) we’re constantly having to wash dirty diapers too.  But, I know that’s just how it goes in the beginning, until their little bladders get bigger and bowels get better at digestion.  Just now, while typing this, she was asleep on my lap and started to squirm, so I quick took her to the bucket and she did a huge wee!  She’s too easy, man!  Okay, I know, I do have a lot of practice from Margo, but still!  A lot of times during the day, I don’t even both with a diaper cover, I just sort of wrap her up in something and put a fleecy thing underneath for a bit of water proofing.  Lucky for me, Art’s off for three weeks.  His main job is laundry.  Since newborns eliminate something crazy like once every 20 minutes when they’re awake (or more), it’s pretty tricky to catch everything!  But, I would say we are certainly on the right track.  Margo is such a big helper too!  She’s still running around telling everyone we meet that we had a ‘special homebirth’.  When she gets tired of that, I wonder if she’ll start telling people that her baby sister poops and pees in a bucket….  I’ll have fun explaining that one!

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  1. Woohoo! Catching wees and poos! I just love it. Josh is now 19 weeks old and now that the poosare less regular and we are better trained we catch most poos and heaps of wees. I think it should be called Parent Toilet Training (PTT) coz really they ate training us!!

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  2. Oh my gosh how do people do it without EC?! LOVE the pic! Xx

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  3. Interesting, I have never ever heard of this before! 🙂 Always fun to learn “new” methods. I’m definitely going to educate myself more about EC. Thanks!

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    • It’s the best! Feel free to ask any questions at all! There will be more blogs on this one from me in the future!

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      • Thanks I will remember that once the baby is here! I have read more about it and Im going to give it a go! 🙂 I too had a lot of questions about diapers and thinking of all the waist that I will be producing, so I ended up buying organic All in one Bumgenius cloth diapers which I will then use for safety and for night time :D. I have one question though now. When you see that the baby needs to elimanate, do you need to react really quickly and does the baby learn to elimanate once it is being hold over the bucket? 🙂

      • You will be amazed at how fast they learn to ‘hold it’. Just today, on our way home in the car from the market, I could tell she had to do a poo (I was sitting in back with them), the second we got home and I took off her diaper, held her over the bucket, man, did she let it rip! There was a little spot in her diaper, but I would say 95% of it landed in the bucket. Also, wearing cloth helps them to feel when they’ve gone, and increases their awareness of what’s going on down there. It’s a two way communication that grows and changes as you get to know your baby better and as your baby gets older and becomes able to communicate in different ways. And WAY MORE FUN than changing diapers all the time. Look honey, I caught a big poo (rather than, oh, gotta change the diaper again).

      • That just sounds awesome! I would never had guessed that this would be possible with an infant! 🙂 I have a lot yet to learn 😀 Thanks for the answer! 🙂

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  5. Why do they have to grow so darn fast? I miss my boy’s teeny buttocks and those folded up newborn legs. Le sigh.

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