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The Myth of the ‘Easy’ Baby

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When people asked me if my babies were ‘easy‘, or if they were ‘good‘, my first reaction was to wince and then remind myself to smile and say ‘yes‘. I know they were only asking out of habit or lack of something better to say.  I still give the same reaction when I hear someone saying, ‘Oh, we’re so lucky, we have suuuuuch a good baby‘.  Wince.  Smile.   Read the rest of this entry

Gently Dealing with My Daughter’s Crazy Irrational Fears

Big Kid. Scared of Wind.

Big Kid. Scared of Wind. Little One, Oblivious and Having Fun

Dealing with a child’s irrational fears is sort of like going through spiritual bootcamp.  As you go through it, you’ve found that you’ve experienced, denial, anger, frustration, compassion, patience, acceptance and, in the end, unconditional love.  Today, my 3 1/2 year old daughter touched a dog  Yes, TOUCHED a dog, as in willingly went up to it and pet it.  A year ago, if she had even saw a dog, from a mile away, she would have climbed up me like I was a tree and then leaped into my arms. Read the rest of this entry

Train a Dog, But Don’t Train Your Baby to Sleep!

Do I look like a dog?

Do I look like a dog?

I was fuming. Yes, me. Yogi, surfy, zen-mama Kate, was exhausted. I had a throbbing headache, my house was a mess and my 14 month old was up for two hours in the middle of the night.   Read the rest of this entry

Positive Parenting 101: Say ‘Yes’ More and ‘No’ Less

Little Miss Three Year Old

Little Miss Three Year Old, likes to say ‘YES!’

Just about every kid’s most frequently used word is ‘NO‘.  It sometimes comes out even when they mean to say ‘yes‘! Really, it’s bizarre behavior and can often be quite maddening for parents. I’m sure you know what I mean. Read the rest of this entry

Do You Follow the Golden Rule When Your Kids Take a Nap?

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Sweetness is...

Sweetness is…

I sometimes call myself the ‘Nap Nazi’.  Getting my kids down for a mid-day sleep at the same time is sort of my priority and I confess, I don’t like it when it doesn’t happen.  My girls are 3 1/2 and 12 months, and since the little one was born, I’ve been pretty diligent at getting them to nap at the same time.  Now, I am fully into gentle parenting, I would never do ‘Cry It Out‘ (or chuck ’em in the crib as some would say).  We cosleep, babywear, do EC (elimination communication), tandem breastfeed (you see where I’m going with this).  But I have to say, I am pretty stubborn when it comes to making sure that everyone gets some rest or ‘time out‘ and at the same time.  Since it’s just me at home with them all day (everyday) without the help of a village or extended family (curse you industrial revolution), I feel like it’s all the more reason that I consciously make an effort to get my kids to sleep at the same time so that I can rest too!  I think most mothers would agree that it’s really nice to have that time of peace… although, I know that many times the ‘peacefulness’ doesn’t always happen for various reasons… Read the rest of this entry

Do You Let your Kids Cry? Letting Babies and Children Cry, In a Gentle and Loving Way

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Strongly Attached

Strongly Attached

The house has been really trashed lately.  I mean, like REALLY trashed.  Margo’s three year old experiments and imaginary play have taken the mess to a whole new level.  She’s not destroying the house, just messing things up to the extreme.  Usually I can keep up with the mess, but I’ve been tired lately and letting things slide.  My husband’s been really busy at work, so everything has sort of been getting left a mess at the end of the night.  Despite Margo’s messes, the biggest mess in the house, is actually caused by ME, and it’s in the kitchen.  We don’t have a dish washer, and it only takes one day of not doing the dishes and you’ve got a pile…. Give it two days without doing them, and they’re literally stacked to the ceiling.  Since we’re trying to save money so I can stay at home, we eat at home almost all the time… the kitchen gets wrecked daily. Read the rest of this entry

Sibling Spacing from an Attachment Parent Perspective… Is Three the Magic Number?

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The only double trolley at Coles!

The only double trolley at Coles!

My girls are two years and four and half months apart… just to be extremely exact. Margo was 20 months old when I found out I was pregnant. Early pregnancy exhaustion and nausea set in soon after I took that pregnancy test, and stayed there for about 2 or 3 months. I spent a lot of time laying down on the couch, reading Margo books, or half dozing while she toddled around in the living room. The first trimester was during the hottest summer months, and the heat made me stick to our vinyl couch… the thought of opening the fridge to cook something made my stomach turn and I made sure that every time Margo had a nap, I was passed out along side of her. It was pure luck and a huge blessing that the exhaustion happened just at the start of school holidays, so I was off from work until the worst of it subsided. Looking back at the whole thing I can draw a better picture of what it means to have two kids relatively close in age. I know some people have kids much closer together than I did, or some even have twins or more on their hands, but it was still ‘2 under 3’ and it was a bit of juggling act to get started (still is). Read the rest of this entry

A Yell and a Threat… But, Only In My Back Pocket

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Would you ever think these two could make me go all batty?

Would you ever think these two could make me go all batty?

Have you ever been so mad that your blood starts to boil and you feel like your eyes are going to pop out of your head!  Normally, I’m Miss. Cool-Calm and Collected, gentle parenting advocate, attachment parent who nurtures and explains and validates,whenever there is a problem, and yadda yadda yadda… But NOT this morning!  Nope!  I don’t know what it was… maybe it was the food I ate, the chai tea I drank, the weather, the planets?!  Whatever it was, I really gave to Margo this morning and here’s the story… Read the rest of this entry

Road Trip (Relatively Speaking)

Free as a bird

Free as a bird

I need to start giving photo credits to my nearly 3 year old.  She took that picture with the kite… pretty nice one, I
think!

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Co-Sleeping Conundrums: Co-Sleeping with a Baby and a Toddler

Goldie's not sleeping, she's really smelling my armpit

Goldie’s not sleeping, she’s really smelling my armpit

It’s all fun and games until someone gets head-butted in the eye…  Don’t get me wrong, I love love love co-sleeping with my babies… actually, it’s not that I love it, it’s just that I can’t imagine it any other way. Read the rest of this entry